Handling Divorced Parents On Your Wedding Day
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As a "child of divorce" you will already be all too aware of the delicate balancing act you have learnt to adopt over time. Although it is often said parents divorce each other and not their children, you will know it is not as simple as that. You will have developed your own strategy for dealing with a mother and father who do not live together, and established your own pattern for coping with the tricky problem of divided loyalties.
If the break-up of your parents has meant the loss for you of either a mother or a father, then there may well be grief that once again both your parents will not be there to witness an important day in your life. On the other hand it may be that this is a new problem for you, since some couples now seem to get divorced at a more advanced age: your parents may have decided to "stay together for the children", and remained a couple until they felt their parenting was done. It is not generally realized that a boy or girl starting college or even his or her own family and quite independent, still needs to believe they have parents who are together.
This is most important at the time when you are wedding.
These are just the sort of things that do happen. It is surely unrent often poses dreadful difficulties for the bridal couple.
The golden rule for the smooth running on "the day" is that everything is discussed in good time before the event. At all costs embarrassment must be avoided by grasping the nettle well in advance, and if your father wants to bloved stepfather? Where will everybody be placed in the photographs or in the table plan?
The first step is to ask the advice of the parents together if only for a day. If this is to happen, then it is up to you to ensure that any partner is also taken care of that day, and not left out in the cold. Perhaps the help of a cousin or close friend can be enlisted.
If a mother or father begins to lay down the law about who plays a major part and who does not, it may be time to call the tune, and to say that although you can understand their position, it is your greatest detail.
The day may be hard for divorced pawedding day, and the sadness of the wedding day and a time for looking forward. I hope the sun shines for you both.
by Jill Curtis, www.familyonwards.com
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